What I Wish People Knew About Me
The internet sometimes makes me feel inadequate as a mom. I feel a twinge of envy over the supermom who facebooked about the gourmet meal she whipped up for her family as I serve mine spaghetti for the 2nd night in a row. I feel a tad jealous over the supermom who posts photos of her incredibly fashionable outfits every week and never has a hair out of place as I’m sitting at home in my yoga pants. And then someone recently made the comment to me about how they wish they could be a supermom like me. Me? A supermom? Not so much. You see, that’s the thing about the internet, we only get to see highlight reels of people’s lives. You rarely get to see the messy stuff behind the computer screen, the stuff that makes us all just normal moms trying to survive until bedtime. So, here you go. The messy stuff and what I wish people knew about me.
I’m a reformed perfectionist. Oh yes, I was a type A overachiever for many years. And then I had a child and learned that things rarely go according to plan. Perfection just isn’t obtainable and I’m so much happier now that I’ve learned that.
I procrastinate, which is probably why I’m sitting here typing this post at the last minute. But I work better under pressure, or maybe I just tell myself that I do.
The newborn stage was tough for me. A preterm baby, colic, breastfeeding issues, mastitis, jaundice, clogged tear ducts, sleep deprivation, PPA and PPD. I loved my squishy newborn more than words, but I’m so glad those days are over. And for those of you still in that stage…it gets better.
The only time my house is clean is when we have company. Half an hour before guests arrive, you will find me rushing around the house with a broom in hand, using it to push stuff under beds. And if a room is clean? My toddler fixes that (see above). I’m not really sure what the point of cleaning is.
Being healthy doesn’t always come easy for me and I’m still learning how to do it. It’s important for me to teach my son how to eat well and live actively, especially with a family history of diabetes. This is the reason why I’m so proud to be part of the Chiquita Mom community, where moms make health and nutrition a priority.
What do you wish people knew about you? Spill it!
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Love this post, Vanessa! It’s always nice to know other moms struggle with the same things I do.
Thanks Angie!
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@Vanessa, I hear ya! Raising kids is tough! So is keeping a clean house while you do it.
I now have a new rule…. if I have kids over to the house I don’t clean before they come. I clean after! Why clean before a tornado blows through? I don’t think my friends have ever seen my house tidy! Why set high expectations anyway?
Good call @Katie! Except my little tornado never stops blowing through lol!
What I wish people knew about me:
1. I will help you with almost anything you need, you just need to ask. Seriously! Need help with nursing or washing dishes? I am your lady!
2. I am passionate about children, and everything related to them being healthier.
3. I get lonely, but have a hard time reaching out, as I feel I am bothering people. Case in point, I would love to call my sister in laws, but I always feel like I will call at a bad time.
4. I, too, am a perfectionist. Which means nothing ever gets done, because I cannot do it “right.” After 9 years of marriage, my husband is still trying to wrap his head around that. lol
@Donna – I bet your SIL’s would LOVE a phone call from you and let’s face it, when you are a mom there really isn’t a GOOD time
I can so relate to your #4!
Great post. And I resonate with about 80% of it myself. I do struggle with everyone only seeing the brighter side of things too.
Hmm, what I wish they new about me:
1. That I don’t have as many close friends as people think that I do. I really long for deep friendships.
2. Being a mom is the hardest thing I choose to do every day.